“We define self-deception as not knowing – and resisting the possibility – that one has a problem. Arbinger Institute
Have you ever wondered if there was a missing ingredient that could improve your relationships – in the workplace and beyond?
Well, it wasn’t until I came across the book, Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting out of the Box, written by The Arbinger Institute, that I was able to put my finger on an important part of the puzzle. – Self Deception. Not that it’s THE ANSWER, but it can go a long way in changing the quality and nature of your relationships.
Understanding how acts of self-deception affect our perception of others is the first step. This can give us insights into recognizing the behaviors that can lead us to treat people more as objects – means to our end – and not living breathing human beings with needs just like our own.
It is easy to get caught up in the endless “doing” of work and lose sight of who is at the other end of our “transaction”. Managers, even seasoned ones, who pride themselves on their results orientation, can lose their focus seeing interactions between people – as tasks. Another workplace reality is that we simply do not “gel” with or even like, some of our co-workers – all the more reason to see past their humanness. Continue reading