How many times have we said to ourselves, with the deepest intentions, “This part of my behavior has to stop, it’s just not working for me?”
And then we resort back to old behavior – still holding the best of intentions.
Why is it so easy to be our own worst enemy, especially in the arena of making personal change?
What can we do to eliminate the gap between intention and action? What stops us from aligning our beliefs and motivations so that they produce the changes we want to feel and see in our lives?
Resistance to change is powerful. In one study of heart patients, told they would likely die without making lifestyle changes, only one in seven followed the medical recommendations. I’m sure that the six who didn’t change truly want to live. Change is a decision-making process involving different regions of the brain that become integrated, resulting in behavior and actions. However, too often it’s just a decision to change, not the actual behavioral change we want.
When we want to make a change in our lives, it usually starts with an intention that can be either an articulated expression of some desire or a privately held thought. For example, I might say that I want to lose weight or, think that I want to work on changing the nature of my relationship with a colleague at work..but the weight stays on and the relationship doesn’t change.
What stops me? Why is there such a gap between intention and action? Continue reading